Busy...busy...busy....does that describe your life? Ok ... so question(s) - what is it busy with? Is it busy with work? School? Extras? Business? Internet? ......
How are the relationships in your life? Yes, I said it - relationships.
Here's a quote that truly has meaning to me:
Have your personal relationships been on the back burner? Recently, I've spoken with different people who tell me about issues that they are having in their personal life. Whether they are dealing with being on the back burner or moving others to that position. I know it's super easy to get 'busy' and stop living life. But as a [pretty darn good] half of my marriage (just kidding...he's SO the better 1/2!) - it's essential that we take the time to really engage like a couple.
For a while it was like this:
K: So what are you up to tomorrow?
L: I'm going to Ikea with Mom & taking C*
K: What? Wow, that is some plan
L: Huh? Didn't I tell you Monday?
K: No, definitely not.
L: I was sure....
K: no...
Seem familiar? Scary isn't it? So my real question is .... do you really have those conversations with your spouse? Mom? Brother? Dad? Aunt? Uncle? Grandparent? In law? Best Friend?
Why haven't you - disclaimer: I am NOT at all an expert...this is my 30 day guide too!
(my bffs are like...whatever...she's not terrific!)
So what are you next steps? How do actually improve that relationship?
1. Admit - yes, this is usually number 1 - but it's SOO important!
2. Apologize - You've been lousy & you know it
3. Make time - schedule it if you have to - have weekly chats/date nights (you don't have to out of the house)
4. Know your priorities....what are they? What do they look like?
5. Choose to change
It's so eeasy to say yes - I'll change...and it never happens. "Be the change you wish to see in {your} world!" - Ghandi
Here's some favorite quotes I have on relationships:
Does your partner trust that you'll put them before work? Do they understand when you have to work long hours (hint: give em a heads up...it'll help!)
What value have you put on your relationship? At the end of time...who do you want by your side?
Note: Intimacy is not a relationship - we see this alllllll the time. People can be intimate & not have the relationship that they deserve. Please don't mix the two. The same with a ring - that doesn't mean a relationship is there.
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With love (in your relationships!) always, Lida
P.S. Here's a cute heart session with Heather & Tony
1. Admit - yes, this is usually number 1 - but it's SOO important!
2. Apologize - You've been lousy & you know it
3. Make time - schedule it if you have to - have weekly chats/date nights (you don't have to out of the house)
4. Know your priorities....what are they? What do they look like?
5. Choose to change
It's so eeasy to say yes - I'll change...and it never happens. "Be the change you wish to see in {your} world!" - Ghandi
Here's some favorite quotes I have on relationships:
Does your partner trust that you'll put them before work? Do they understand when you have to work long hours (hint: give em a heads up...it'll help!)
What value have you put on your relationship? At the end of time...who do you want by your side?
Note: Intimacy is not a relationship - we see this alllllll the time. People can be intimate & not have the relationship that they deserve. Please don't mix the two. The same with a ring - that doesn't mean a relationship is there.
Need a neat post to read? click here
With love (in your relationships!) always, Lida
P.S. Here's a cute heart session with Heather & Tony
Lida, Thanks, everything you just said is so true. Where there is no love, trust, communication, there is no true relationship. Yes my conversations sound a little like that. Guess we all need a wake up call sometimes...
ReplyDeleteNo doubt, thanks for your comment Cheryl - I'm so thankful that you read my blog!
ReplyDeleteLove you!